Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day to girl dads, boy dads; step-fathers; ill, disabled, unemployed, absent, incarcerated and wannabe fathers — ALL

My father was bigger than life to me, though somewhat of an enigma since my parents separated when I was three-years-old.  I lived with my father for about four of the eighteen years that I had him. He was Daddy — my handsome ebony-colored, easy-talking, first love. I was always happy to see my father, even when he disappointed me in some way. He accepted me as I was and never put me down or put limits on me.

When I was little, I loved trying to cook for my father. Once, I made soggy fried peach pies and weak coffee, which he accepted and devoured as though they were a gourmet offering. I regret that I never got to cook a meal for him after I honed my culinary skills.

My opinion of my father has morphed over the years. When I was a child, I idealized him and imbued him with specialness. I knew that he loved me. I was Daddy’s girl.

So, how do I see my father now after many years have passed? I see him as disappointed with his life, and perhaps maybe living with regrets. He wanted his family united in the way he had grown up. His parents were together until death parted them. I don’t regret my parents’ separation; I now know that they were not well suited for one another.

My father wouldn’t have won “Father of the Year,” but he was perfect for me. I have never longed for or searched for another.

Father’s Day originated in the United States of America.

The first attempt at celebrating Father’s Day was in 1907 in response to a memorial service for a group of coal miners who died in Monongah, West Virginia. That celebration didn’t make it out of West Virginia.

June 19, 1910 — The first Father’s Day was established in Spokane, Washington. Sonora Smart Dodd got the idea for Father’s Day while attending a Mother’s Day service. She wanted to honor her father, Civil War Veteran William Jackson, who raised her and her brothers after their mother died.

1924 President Calvin Coolidge declared Father’s Day a national holiday.

1966 President Lyndon Baines Johnson declared the 3rd Sunday in June as Father’s Day

1972 President Richard Nixon established Father’s Day as a permanent holiday